?B? - Question Behind the Question

Last week, I attended an off-site meeting of my group. One of the sessions, in the meeting, was to discuss “Personal Accountability”. We were asked to read the book “Question Behind the Question” by John G Miller. I found the concept explained in this book to be very profound. This blog highlights the summary and learnings from this book.

Anyone who has interacted with any government institution knows that, to get a job done one literally has to go from pillar to post. “It’s not my job”, “Go to that table”, etc., are the common phrases one hears. This problem is not restricted just to the government institutions. It can be seen in any organization. We call this malaise “passing the buck”. People take the functional boundaries very religiously and are not willing to go the extra mile, beyond the function to help others. These people do not have personal accountability. A few of the very many questions that can define lack of personal accountability are: “When is someone going to train me?” “Why do we have to go through all this change?”, “Who dropped the ball?”. The Question Behind the Question” (QBQ) is a tool that’s been developed and refined over the years, to practice personal accountability, by asking better questions.

The QBQ is built on the observation that our first reactions are often negative, bringing to mind incorrect questions, but in the moment of decision we can instead discipline our thoughts to look behind those initial questions and ask better ones (QBQs), the questions themselves will lead us to better results. One of the guiding principles of the QBQ is “The answers are in the questions”. If we ask a better question, we get a better answer. Here are the three simple guidelines for creating a QBQ.

1. Begin with “What” or “How” (not “Why”, “When”, or “Who).
2. Contain an “I” (not “they”, “them”, “we”, or “you”)
3. Focus on action.

Don’t Ask “Why?”. Why is this happening to me? Why am I not getting support? When one asks this question he feels powerless - like a victim. Questions with a “Why me?” tone to them say, I’m a victim of the environment and the people around me. Instead of “Why” question if you follow the QBQ guideline, the question can be rephrased as “What can I do to improve the situation?” “How can I support others?”.

Don’t Ask “When?” What we’re really saying is that, we have no choice but to wait and put off action until another time. Questions that begin with “When” lead to procrastination. Instead of “When will they take care of the problem?”, ask the QBQ “What solution can I provide?”. Notice the difference.

Don’t Ask “Who?” When we ask “Who” questions, what we’re really doing is looking for scapegoats, someone else to blame. Blaming others is always counterproductive. Instead of the question “Who made the mistake?” “Who dropped the ball?”, ask the QBQ “What can I do today to solve the problem?” or “What action can I take to ‘own’ the situation?”

Personal accountability begins with “me” not “you”.It is about, each of us holding ourselves accountable,for our own thinking and behaviors as well as the results they produce. This is why the second QBQ guideline contains an “I”,not “they”,”them” or “you”. Questions that contain an “I” turn our focus away from other people and circumstances and put it back on ourselves. We can’t change other people. We often can’t control circumstances and events. The only things we have any real control over are our own thoughts and actions. I can only change myself.

More often the term “we” is used to express the personal accountability. One should be careful not to mix-up personal accountability with team accountability. We can hide behind the team with thoughts – which become excuses- such as: “The team wasn’t given enough resources”. Personal accountability is not about changing others. It’s about making a difference by changing ourselves.

Practicing personal accountability calls for taking actions. If I don’t ask what I can do or make or achieve or build, then I won’t do or make or achieve or build. Only through action is anything accomplished. Action, even when it leads to mistakes, brings learning and growth. It leads us towards solution. It builds confidence. It is better to be the one who is told to wait, than one who waits to be told.

The spirit of QBQ is personal accountability: No more victim thinking, procrastinating, or blaming. I can only change me. Take action!.



Happy reading,
Ram